Let’s say a friend wants you to set you up with a great guy she thinks you’d really like. She mentions that in talking to him, she described you as a very stable person, very grounded and steady. How would you feel? I wouldn’t be too thrilled either. Stability isn’t sexy – it does not incite lust. It sounds like the way you’d describe someone who’s physically unattractive but has “a nice personality.” Or someone boring but reliable. Yet stability is a trait that is key to any healthy, lasting relationship. Definition: Stable (of a person) 1. Sane and sensible; not easily upset or disturbed. We often assume that stable people are boring. Their lives are absent of drama, largely because they don’t create it. They also tend to avoid people who make a lot of drama. If we do it, they often fail to take the bait, which is maddening! When I was an actor, I learned that all compelling stories are filled with drama, and drama is born of conflict. Without conflict, there is no reason to ...
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