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Are you codependent? In this video, I define codependency behaviors and how they show up in dating and relationships. — Are you codependent? When dating or in a relationship, do you tend to put a man’s needs before your own? Do you lose a sense of self? If so, you may be behaving in codependent ways. In this video, I reveal the signs of codependent behavior and how you can have healthier relationships. Are You Codependent? What’s codependency? Codependency refers to any enmeshed relationship in which one person believes they need to tend to someone else’s needs while losing their own sense of autonomy. Codependent behavior generally involves: Self-sacrifice Focusing on others first A need for control Difficulty expressing emotions and setting boundaries Signs of codependency: Difficulty trusting yourself or others The desire to fix/save people in order to feel needed Putting others’ needs before your own Discomfort with ...

Dating in your 40’s and beyond can be wonderful. In this episode, Suzannah Galland shares why dating at this stage can be amazing. — Suzannah Galland is a British-born empath and internationally acclaimed intuitive life advisor. She has written for Huffington Post, Harper’s Bazaar, Goop, Thrive Global, and Medium. She’s also been featured in Forbes, Vogue, New York Magazine, USA Today, and is co-author of Goop’s The Sex Issue. Suzannah has been featured on the Today Show and as a frequent guidance expert on America’s Next Top Model.  In this episode of Last First Date Radio: What’s different about dating in your 40’s and beyond? How can people in midlife date with more confidence? How can we tell the difference between ‘trust your gut’ and fear? Why is it important to get comfortable with uncertainty? Last First Date Radio Join Sandy Weiner, THE renowned dating and relationship coach for women over 40, for this inspirational show about attracting and sust...

Here are five assumptions to avoid while dating if you want to go on your last first date. Watch the video to learn what to do instead. — Dating online can be challenging. We’re meeting total strangers, and it’s easy to assume many things about them before we even meet. Assumptions actually make dating even more difficult. We eliminate so many possible matches when we paint men with a broad brush. In this video, I share five assumptions to avoid while dating if you want to find love. Because your assumptions are probably keeping you single . 5 Assumptions to Avoid While Dating 1. You share the same relationship goals  2. If he doesn’t text much, he’s not interested 3. You both define exclusivity the same way 4. If he cares about you, he’ll know what you need and want 5. If he’s hot, he’s out of your league Watch the video to learn more. And if you’re making any of these assumptions, I invite you to do something else, which I menti...

It’s easy to understand why women get really discouraged as they look around, especially on college campuses. Even the cutest guys become repulsive by virtue of their behavior, which often ranges from idiotic to crass to just plain rude. Most of these guys will probably turn out great. They’ll mature and settle down to be the nice men their mothers raised. But when? Their late 20s? 30s? How long do women really have to wait for mature, meaningful communication with the opposite sex? Michael Kimmel, author of the book  Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men , explains that guys are taking a lot longer to grow up these days. The most important thing to most guys is the opinion of their buddies. Hooking up is not about sex or even intimacy. “If sex were the goal, a guy would have a much better chance of having more (and better) sex if he had a steady girlfriend.  Instead, guys hook up to prove something to other guys.  The actual experience of sex pales in comparison to the ex...

Women today don’t understand femininity very well. It’s a dirty secret from the patriarchal past, and it’s been mostly successfully scrubbed from our consciousness by   gender-bending feminists . This loss is mourned by men, who desperately seek feminine women. At the same time, the denial of biological sex differences has affected them as well, as male behavior and nature is routinely shamed in our culture. The end result of this disastrous social experiment is a masculinized female population and a feminized male population. This is not conducive to happy mating. Recently, reader Sai expressed her bafflement at what femininity is supposed to look like: When I spent way too long Googling “how do girls act”/”what are girls like” I knew I had a problem. I don’t want to completely morph into a touchy-feely mother to all living things. I’m honestly still not sure what I’ll gain from this -the visual component is seriously lacking, which is why I saw no point in being that sort of girl ...

“I love romance. I’m a sucker for it. I love it so much. It’s pathetic.” Drew Barrymoreaa If you have had enough of hooking up with either randoms or friends, and you feel ready for a relationship, it’s important that you not waste your time and energy on boys who don’t have any relationship potential. You need to learn to figure out which boys are promising, and which ones are hopeless. It can be difficult to identify a Quality Boy, especially if you are just getting to know him. Lots of guys act nice at first, so how are you supposed to figure out which boys are true relationship material and which ones are just trying to get some ass? Often girls aren’t able to discern between the two until they’ve been treated poorly – then it becomes obvious he was in it for the sex. Because that happens so frequently to in the hookup culture, girls need to develop better tools for judging a boy’s readiness up front. For our purposes, the target market for relationships consists of guys aged ...

“ Women need a reason to have sex.   Men just need a place.” Billy Crystal,  When Harry Met Sally You. You are smart, you are independent , you are strong.  You make your own choices about what you do with your body.  When you like a guy, you’re not afraid to show it. Your Plan. You’re looking forward to going out with the girls this weekend.  Maybe you’ll meet a new boy.  If the time was right, and the boy was right, you could see yourself in a relationship.  Maybe not joined at the hip, but still, a best friend boyfriend might be wonderful.  You’re ready and hoping it will happen soon.  You feel upbeat about the future. The Boy. He is in his sexual prime.  Girls are everywhere.  His brain is in his penis. His Plan. He has noticed you around and he thinks you’re hot. You’ve never met, but he’s hoping to see you out this weekend with your friends.  In fact, there are a bunch of hot girls he’s hoping to run into.  He’ll pregame first so that when he runs into you he’ll have his...