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In this episode, you’ll learn the relationship skills you need to have the lasting connections you yearn for. — Lauren Reitsema’s interest in relationship skills began when her parents divorced after almost 20 years. Seeking to understand better patterns for her own future, she earned a Bachelor in Communication from TCU. Lauren is the author of In Their Shoes , a book dedicated to helping parents better understand and connect with children of divorce. She has been a speaker for over 15 years, teaching a variety of relationship skills to youth, adults and corporate teams. Lauren, her husband, Josh, and their three children are avid skiers, outdoor enthusiasts and Broncos’ fans. Joneen Mackenzie is an RN and former first lieutenant in the USAF Nurse Corps. She founded the Center for Relationship Education, which has certified more than 15,000 educators in its REAL Essentials relationship skills curricula. She participates in national public health standards policy throug...

It is believed that children who come from broken homes are more likely to end up saying these words at a later stage in their lives: “I want a divorce”. Experts and researchers say it is a life-cycle conundrum in which history repeats itself as the mistakes of the parents are visited upon the children. Many children from divorced parents learn from their parents that the marriage vows they exchanged could be broken when difficulties arise in the form of finances, third parties who they fall in love with or simply growing apart. Unlike children whose parents stuck at their marriages therefore, researchers have confirmed that those who come from divorced parents are more likely to end up going through the same process themselves. Nicholas H. Wolfinger of the University of Utah  concluded a research into the negative effects of divorce on children. According to the research result, children from unstable homes are more likely to marry at a relatively young age and even more likely to en...

It is believed that children who come from broken homes are more likely to end up saying these words at a later stage in their lives: “I want a divorce”. Experts and researchers say it is a life-cycle conundrum in which history repeats itself as the mistakes of the parents are visited upon the children. Many children from divorced parents learn from their parents that the marriage vows they exchanged could be broken when difficulties arise in the form of finances, third parties who they fall in love with or simply growing apart. Unlike children whose parents stuck at their marriages therefore, researchers have confirmed that those who come from divorced parents are more likely to end up going through the same process themselves. Nicholas H. Wolfinger of the University of Utah  concluded a research into the negative effects of divorce on children. According to the research result, children from unstable homes are more likely to marry at a relatively young age and even more likely to en...

It is believed that children who come from broken homes are more likely to end up saying these words at a later stage in their lives: “I want a divorce”. Experts and researchers say it is a life-cycle conundrum in which history repeats itself as the mistakes of the parents are visited upon the children. Many children from divorced parents learn from their parents that the marriage vows they exchanged could be broken when difficulties arise in the form of finances, third parties who they fall in love with or simply growing apart. Unlike children whose parents stuck at their marriages therefore, researchers have confirmed that those who come from divorced parents are more likely to end up going through the same process themselves. Nicholas H. Wolfinger of the University of Utah  concluded a research into the negative effects of divorce on children. According to the research result, children from unstable homes are more likely to marry at a relatively young age and even more likely to en...

Open dialogue is the key to a clean conscience – if you’ve got some debt skeletons in your closet and the relationship is important to you it may be time to let them out… Bring up the word “infidelity” at a dinner party or on a psychiatrist’s couch, and you’re likely to see the conversation veer off to issues regarding the libido. But there may be an even more insidious form of infidelity that packs just as much punch as the romantic kind, and can just as easily break up a couple. Financial Infidelity A new study shows that 80% of couples spend money behind their significant others back – and don’t tell them about the purchase. Another 18.5% of the 200 survey respondents included in the study have opened a credit card without their partner’s knowledge. In addition, 38% of survey respondents who do practice financial infidelity say they fear that, if found out, their relationships would end quickly. Why do so many people hide debt and spending issues from their loved ones? Primar...

Internet dating: could two words ever have struck such fear into the heart of the newly divorced?! Let’s face it, dating can be a daunting experience for anyone.  To worsen matters, it can become a nerve wrecking experience if you’re re-entering the dating world after a long break and a traumatic break-up. As if you didn’t have enough on your hands without the heartbreak from your previous failed relationship, trying to re adjust to life now on your own but now you disover that you’re an absolute novice when it comes to the new rules of dating!  It’s enough to send you to a cabin in the woods! Here are some tips for dating after divorce . Online or offline dating? Should you find love online or offline? The answer to that relies to a large extent on the amount of time you have at hand as well as your confidence level . It’s quite normal to feel pretty unconfident about your attractiveness after the morale-kicking expereince of divorce, which makes online dating an appealing way to...

Even as an adult, witnessing a fight is distressing, even if you don’t know the people involved. So, just imagine how damaging it is for your kids to see their parents fighting… In fact, you may not be aware that witnessing domestic violence (or being scared of it happening) is so damaging to a child’s mental and emotional well-being that it is legally considered to be a form of child abuse. Therefore, consider the following when you feel yourself about to boil over: It’s a terrible image that will stay in their minds forever Fighting with your partner (or soon to be ex) in front of the kids leaves the children with a negative picture of their parents. Whilst fighting is not uncommon even in a stable relationship, it is vital that the children are removed from the fray. Any and all arguments need to take place away from the children and preferably out of earshot as well. Fighting in front of the kids makes it more difficult to present a ‘united front’ You children will be confuse...