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Dating in your 40’s and beyond can be wonderful. In this episode, Suzannah Galland shares why dating at this stage can be amazing. — Suzannah Galland is a British-born empath and internationally acclaimed intuitive life advisor. She has written for Huffington Post, Harper’s Bazaar, Goop, Thrive Global, and Medium. She’s also been featured in Forbes, Vogue, New York Magazine, USA Today, and is co-author of Goop’s The Sex Issue. Suzannah has been featured on the Today Show and as a frequent guidance expert on America’s Next Top Model.  In this episode of Last First Date Radio: What’s different about dating in your 40’s and beyond? How can people in midlife date with more confidence? How can we tell the difference between ‘trust your gut’ and fear? Why is it important to get comfortable with uncertainty? Last First Date Radio Join Sandy Weiner, THE renowned dating and relationship coach for women over 40, for this inspirational show about attracting and sust...

Here are five assumptions to avoid while dating if you want to go on your last first date. Watch the video to learn what to do instead. — Dating online can be challenging. We’re meeting total strangers, and it’s easy to assume many things about them before we even meet. Assumptions actually make dating even more difficult. We eliminate so many possible matches when we paint men with a broad brush. In this video, I share five assumptions to avoid while dating if you want to find love. Because your assumptions are probably keeping you single . 5 Assumptions to Avoid While Dating 1. You share the same relationship goals  2. If he doesn’t text much, he’s not interested 3. You both define exclusivity the same way 4. If he cares about you, he’ll know what you need and want 5. If he’s hot, he’s out of your league Watch the video to learn more. And if you’re making any of these assumptions, I invite you to do something else, which I menti...

It’s easy to understand why women get really discouraged as they look around, especially on college campuses. Even the cutest guys become repulsive by virtue of their behavior, which often ranges from idiotic to crass to just plain rude. Most of these guys will probably turn out great. They’ll mature and settle down to be the nice men their mothers raised. But when? Their late 20s? 30s? How long do women really have to wait for mature, meaningful communication with the opposite sex? Michael Kimmel, author of the book  Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men , explains that guys are taking a lot longer to grow up these days. The most important thing to most guys is the opinion of their buddies. Hooking up is not about sex or even intimacy. “If sex were the goal, a guy would have a much better chance of having more (and better) sex if he had a steady girlfriend.  Instead, guys hook up to prove something to other guys.  The actual experience of sex pales in comparison to the ex...

Women today don’t understand femininity very well. It’s a dirty secret from the patriarchal past, and it’s been mostly successfully scrubbed from our consciousness by   gender-bending feminists . This loss is mourned by men, who desperately seek feminine women. At the same time, the denial of biological sex differences has affected them as well, as male behavior and nature is routinely shamed in our culture. The end result of this disastrous social experiment is a masculinized female population and a feminized male population. This is not conducive to happy mating. Recently, reader Sai expressed her bafflement at what femininity is supposed to look like: When I spent way too long Googling “how do girls act”/”what are girls like” I knew I had a problem. I don’t want to completely morph into a touchy-feely mother to all living things. I’m honestly still not sure what I’ll gain from this -the visual component is seriously lacking, which is why I saw no point in being that sort of girl ...

“I love romance. I’m a sucker for it. I love it so much. It’s pathetic.” Drew Barrymoreaa If you have had enough of hooking up with either randoms or friends, and you feel ready for a relationship, it’s important that you not waste your time and energy on boys who don’t have any relationship potential. You need to learn to figure out which boys are promising, and which ones are hopeless. It can be difficult to identify a Quality Boy, especially if you are just getting to know him. Lots of guys act nice at first, so how are you supposed to figure out which boys are true relationship material and which ones are just trying to get some ass? Often girls aren’t able to discern between the two until they’ve been treated poorly – then it becomes obvious he was in it for the sex. Because that happens so frequently to in the hookup culture, girls need to develop better tools for judging a boy’s readiness up front. For our purposes, the target market for relationships consists of guys aged ...

“ Women need a reason to have sex.   Men just need a place.” Billy Crystal,  When Harry Met Sally You. You are smart, you are independent , you are strong.  You make your own choices about what you do with your body.  When you like a guy, you’re not afraid to show it. Your Plan. You’re looking forward to going out with the girls this weekend.  Maybe you’ll meet a new boy.  If the time was right, and the boy was right, you could see yourself in a relationship.  Maybe not joined at the hip, but still, a best friend boyfriend might be wonderful.  You’re ready and hoping it will happen soon.  You feel upbeat about the future. The Boy. He is in his sexual prime.  Girls are everywhere.  His brain is in his penis. His Plan. He has noticed you around and he thinks you’re hot. You’ve never met, but he’s hoping to see you out this weekend with your friends.  In fact, there are a bunch of hot girls he’s hoping to run into.  He’ll pregame first so that when he runs into you he’ll have his...

If you’re going through a high conflict divorce, you’re going to want to listen to this episode with Karen McMahon! — Going through a high conflict divorce? Karen McMahon is a Certified Relationship and Divorce Coach and Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce. She leads a team of divorce coaches in supporting men and women around the world to become calm, clear and confident as they navigate divorce. Karen has since spent the last decade helping thousands of men and women navigate the emotional and practical difficulties of relationships, breakups and divorce. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: What can divorcees do to cope with feeling powerless?  How can a parent divorcing a high conflict spouse find peace when they must coparent post divorce?  What are some helpful boundaries that will keep people sane post divorce?  What unique challenges do men face in divorce? How do these challenges differ from women? How can you recognize codependent behavior...

Are you dating an avoidant man? Pay attention to these 5 signs. If he is an avoidant, use these tips to create a successful relationship. — Have you ever dated a man who seems warm, kind, sweet, but when intimacy increases, he began to distance himself. You might have been dating an avoidant. Pay attention to these five signs! But first, let’s quickly review attachment theory and the three main attachment styles: secure, anxious and avoidant. 5 Signs You’re Dating an Avoidant Securely attached people tend to have relationships that are long lasting and built on trust. They feel comfortable expressing feelings and needs. And they can easily meet their partner’s needs. Anxiously attached people tend to feel insecure in relationships. They need to be reassured frequently that they are loved. This can feel clingy and needy to those with secure or avoidant attachment styles People with avoidant attachment styles are independent and feel uncomfort...

‘Cause it’s a woman’s world Might as well face it Yeah they got what we want and we’re willing to chase it It’s a woman’s world, boys like it or not Men buy the drinks, girls call the shots Steve Holy Should men buy drinks for women? Though men buying drinks for women is nothing new, this question is the latest salvo in the ongoing battle between of the sexes. In my view, the problem can be broken down into two distinct but related components: Effectiveness Ethics The Strategic Effectiveness of Buying Drinks In Hollywood classic films , men in nightclubs routinely send champagne to women they’ve got their eye on. Or, if they’re feeling emboldened, they’ll walk right up to her and ask if they can buy her a drink. It’s playful, and it’s definitely an invitation. It’s foreplay. In 2022, men still follow the same script, but its effectiveness has worn thin. 1.  Often a group of guys will send a round of drinks over to a group of girls, then approach in hopes of combining for...

Filtering is the most important process in dating, and it’s your responsibility. Filtering Lesson #1:  Learn to identify a sociopath. The two most dangerous warning signs every woman should heed in dating: 1. Fearless Dominance 2. Self-centered Impulsivity That’s a one-two punch that can ruin your life. It’s a sociopath! Do not mate with It!  Jeremy Dean, writing at PsyBlog, explains that all of the  oh-so-charming traits of the sociopath/psychopath  (same thing) fall into one of these two categories. Fearless dominance is the most useful of the two: Far from seeming weird, psychopaths are charming and bold and don’t particularly care what other people think of them, unless they need to manipulate those perceptions in some way. People high in fearless dominance are certainly not ‘mad’: they tend to be very outgoing people who are not at all neurotic. There’s even a heroic element to fearless dominance. Some evidence suggests that those high in fearless dominance are more like...

Why do women still play hard-to-get? Tune in to hear Dr. Duana Welch discuss the difference between high status and hard-to-get. — Should women still be playing hard-to-get to ‘get the guy’? Dr. Duana Welch is a relationship coach and author known for applying social science to real life relationship problems. She wrote the Love Factually books, is an expert for the couples app Paired, and an international dating coach. In this episode of Last First Radio: Why do we still talk about hard-to-get?  What is men’s usual mating psychology? What is high-status dating and why is it better? What are some examples of how a woman can feel better–more confident and calm–as she dates, while appealing to men’s desires for her? EP 510: Duana Welch – The Fine Line Between High-Status and Hard-to-Get Last First Date Radio Join Sandy Weiner, THE renowned dating and relationship coach for women over 40, for this inspirational show about attracting and sustaining health...

Did you know that five mindset shifts will help in attracting the right partner? Watch the video to learn what they are. Why do so many people find attracting the right partner so challenging? The answer lies in shifting your mindset in these five areas of your life. Watch the video below… 5 Mindset Shifts for Attracting the Right Partner Mindset shift #1: From “I can’t have everything I WANT in a relationship” to “I can have everything I NEED in a relationship” You’ve gone on so many dates with men who bore you or only want sex. You’ve been in relationships with men who hurt you. Now, you’ve done the inner work, changed your dating patterns for the better, and you’re thinking, “I don’t want to settle, and if I can’t have it all, why even bother dating?” I get it, but if you give up on what you NEED, you will not get it. That’s a guarantee. So shift your mindset to, “I can have it all if I know what I truly NEED in a mature healthy relationship.” ...