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Learn some of the key pitfalls to modern dating in this episode of Last First Date Radio with Marlisse Testa! — Marlisse Testa has been a psychotherapist in Boca Raton, Florida for over twenty years. She is trauma trained, a certified Nutritional and Integrative Medicine mental health professional, and a qualified clinical supervisor. She enjoys helping people heal from their past to find the healthy, happy love they deserve. In her book, Stow Your Luggage When Dating , Marlisse shares a unique set of tools for successful dating without bringing their old luggage along with them. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: When and how can we share our past ‘luggage’ on dates? What are some pitfalls of modern dating? What are some good questions to ask on dates to see if they are available? How can people begin to heal from their past? What is a healthy mindset to help with finding lasting love? Last First Date Radio Join Sandy Weiner, THE renowned dating and r...

How do you recover from a breakup? In this post, I share a creative way to work through the pain and heartache so you can begin to heal. — Breakups can be devastating. But they don’t have to be, especially if you have the tools to help you through this challenging time. After a breakup, I spend a lot of time thinking about my relationship to get clarity. Exactly what went wrong? When did I first notice the problem? Did I communicate my feelings and needs clearly and compassionately throughout the relationship? Was I my authentic self, or did I sometimes shy away from my truth to keep the peace? Did I ignore red flags? And finally, did I break up in the most dignified and caring way possible? The key is to learn from your relationships so you can do better next time. A Creative Way to Recover From a Breakup One of the best ways to process a breakup is by getting those thoughts out of your head and into a letter to your ex....

Want to have better sex in midlife? In this video, I share 5 ways you can increase sexual pleasure in your 50’s, 60’s and beyond! Many of my clients want to know how to have better sex in midlife. Their libido has decreased, and many of their partners have erectile dysfunction. It can feel as if good sex is a thing of the past, but it doesn’t have to be.  In this video, I’m sharing 5 ways to have better sex in midlife…and beyond. 5 ways to reawaken your sex life and enjoy increased pleasure in midlife 1. Redefine what “sex” means to you 2. Focus more on connection than performance 3. Be more adventurous 4. Learn to love the body you have now 5. Communicate what you like, want, and need I go into greater detail on each point in the video below. Watch the Video on How to Have Better Sex in Midlife and Beyond If you want to dive deeper in this topic (and many more relevant topics on dating and relationships in midlife) ...

Dating as a widow can be challenging. In this episode, Susan Ways describes her journey through grief after her husband died of cancer at 49. — Susan Ways is a podcaster, blogger and an inspirational speaker and Human Resource professional. After losing her husband to lung cancer in 2017 Susan embarked on a grief journey, which inspired her to create the Tendrils of Grief podcast. Her goal is to create a space of shared relatable stories that connect grievers together in the spirit of healing, understanding and psychological safety. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: How dating as a widow or widower is different How to know you’re ready to date again Should you try to replace your late spouse? How to grieve after losing a spouse Last First Date Radio Join Sandy Weiner, THE renowned dating and relationship coach for women over 40, for this inspirational show about attracting and sustaining healthy relationships in midlife. Listen to interviews with top ...

Are you making any of these five online dating mistakes? Check out this video to learn how to turn them around and find love! — Online dating can be frustrating, but it doesn’t have to be so hard. In this video, you’ll learn the five most common (and often unconscious) online dating mistakes. You’ll discover what to do so you can turn them around and finally find love online.  5 Most Common Online Dating Mistakes 1. Your profile isn’t unique enough 2. Your messages aren’t sparking conversation 3. You’re not active enough 4. You bring up the hard stuff too early 5. You give up too soon If you’re making any of these 5 online dating mistakes, watch the video and learn my online dating tips so you can finally find the love you deserve! ✓ Are you frustrated with online dating? ✓ Have you been dating online with no success? ✓ Do you crave intimacy, especially after the isolation of the pandemic? ✓ Want to learn how to ...

Did you know gratitude and meditation lead to better relationships? My guest, Lori Saitz, explains how on this episode. — Lori Saitz is the CEO of Zen Rabbit and host of the podcast “FINE is a 4-Letter Word.” The experience of leaving a 22-year marriage inspired her transformational F*ck Being Fine program. Through it, she guides corporate teams and private clients to a place of unprecedented clarity, peace, and productivity. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: Why people say they’re fine when they’re not Why midlife is often the time people stop settling for ‘fine’ relationships How practicing gratitude and meditation helps us find love Last First Date Radio Join Sandy Weiner, THE renowned dating and relationship coach for women over 40, for this inspirational show about attracting and sustaining healthy relationships in midlife. Listen to interviews with top experts and cutting edge authors, plus live coaching! Don’t you want to go on your LAST FIRST...

The first impression is the last, particularly when you are meeting someone for the very first time on a date. How you present yourself in front of the other person either makes it or breaks it. The outfit you choose to wear and the kind of style you portray let the other person know a lot about your personality even before they have started to talk to you. Meeting a new person nowadays has become relatively easy, primarily due to the development of numerous dating apps. You can easily set up your profile on these dating apps and match with a person that fits your vibe and can set up a date with them. It is essential to dress up appropriately for the first date so that the other person knows that you are also interested in them. Here are a few tips to help you dress up for a first date. Read till the end! What to Wear on First Date During Daytime? Day times are more casual. Choosing a simple but cute outfit would be a smart way to go. Wear fresh and light-colored clothes during the...

There are several disadvantages of online dating. But, if you learn a few helpful tips, you CAN find love online. Watch this video! — While there are many disadvantages of online dating, it’s still one of the best ways to find your match. In this video, I reveal the top five disadvantages and how to turn them around to date smarter and find love online. Top 5 Disadvantages of Online Dating 1. Exhausting 2. Too much choice 3. Liars 4. Endless texting 5. Feels superficial How to Date Smarter 1. Exhausting? Be more discerning 2. Too much choice? Narrow your choices down to no more than 3 at a time 3. Liars? Learn to recognize red flags. When in doubt, ask questions and get on a call asap 4. Endless texting? Ask him to get on a call, and if he doesn’t, move on 5. Feels superficial? People DO judge each other based on photos. So, post your best pics. And remember, a profile is not a person. So, meet as soo...

Dr. Elsbeth Meuth and Freddy Zental Weaver show you how to create sexual enlightenment in yourself and your relationships. — Dr. Elsbeth Meuth and Freddy Zental Weaver have helped thousands of couples and singles create lasting intimacy and fulfillment in their life and relationships. They’re featured on Showtime’s documentary series Sexual Healing and the Emmy Award-winning NBC show Starting Over, best-selling authors of Sexual Enlightenment: How to Create Lasting Fulfillment in Life, Love and Intimacy endorsed by world-renowned Spiritual Pioneer Dr. Michael Beckwith, and the co-founders of TantraNova Institute in Chicago. Elsbeth and Freddy are husband and wife as well as business partners living in Chicago. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: What is sexual enlightenment? What’s “sacred sexuality”? How can women and men benefit from the TantraNova approach? The role of creativity in the context of sexual enlightenment.  EP 505: Dr. Elsbeth Meu...

Five or six years ago, when I was first venturing out into the dating world as an adult, dating apps were not a thing, but I still met potential partners with relative ease. Whether it was through my friends, out at a bar, in a coffee shop or whatever, connecting was not that difficult. Of course, I was still young and generally had no idea what I wanted. Within a year or two, a couple short-term relationships fizzled and I went back on the market amid a new-trend-gone-mainstream: Online dating. At that point, most people were at least trying Match, OKCupid, eHarmony, and eventually dating apps like Tinder and Loveawake . Pretty soon, everyone was dating online. Then, everyone was dating almost exclusively  online. And thus, our current culture of indecision, ghosting, hookups and general romantic mayhem was born. The Effects of App Dating on Finding Relationships Studies have looked into the cognitive effects of dating apps and online matching, and there are probably too many to co...

If I could advocate that frustrated daters do  just one single thing  before committing to their next partner, it’s figure out your attachment style. What  is  an attachment style? I’ll summarize quickly: In the 1950s and 1960s,  psychologists uncovered  a few primary attachment styles in infants: secure, anxious and avoidant. Later on, disorganized attachment was added to the list of styles in children. The idea is simple: The bonds we form with our earliest caretakers will impact the relationships we’re prone to create for the rest of our lives. In the 1970s, psychologist Mary Ainsworth pioneered a test called the  Strange Situation Classification (SSC)  to show how infants reacted when their caregivers left them in a room with a stranger. Secure children would cry and wail when their caretakers left, but were easily comforted upon return. Anxious children would become more intensely upset when their caregiver left and would often cling; when the caregiver eventually came back, the...