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When you’re no longer interested in a match on a dating app, do you know when and how to end conversations? Watch this video to find out. — You’ve been texting someone on the dating apps. It’s either not going anywhere, you’re turned off, or you simply realize you’re no longer interested in that person. You want to to stop texting, but you don’t know when and how to end the conversation. Watch this video! When and How to End Conversations A few reminders about texting on the apps: 1. A profile is not a person. Don’t get emotionally invested before you meet and know each other. 2. Dating apps are should be called introduction apps. Just because someone matched with you, doesn’t mean they want to go on a date with you or think you are compatible.  Matches are meant to be explored to see if there is additional interest beyond a first impression.  When to end the conversation Gets sexual too quickly It’s not going anywhere Feels scamm...

After her divorce, Kate Somerset’s daughter said, “Mom, you just need to get laid!” So, she wrote a memoir about her dating adventures! — Kate Somerset is the author of “ Mom…You Just Need to Get Laid: The Adventures of Dating After Divorce “. Written under a pen name, the book recounts the humorous and unexpected stories of Kate as she navigates her way through dating in New York City. A recent transplant from Texas to the Big Apple, Kate hasn’t had a date in 30 years when she lands in Manhattan. But she is determined to build community for herself in her new home and finds that dating is a perfect way to meet people and explore the City.  In this episode of Last First Date Radio: Why Kate wrote this book The story behind the name of the book Why she used a pseudonym Favorite stories about the men she dated The 10 lessons of the book, so you can #DateLikeKate EP 494: Kate Somerset – Mom, You Just Need to Get Laid! Last First Date Radio Join Sandy Weiner,...

Confused about WHEN to define the relationship? Or HOW to have that conversation? Check out this video to learn when and how to DTR! — Have you ever been afraid to define the relationship (DTR)? Have you wondered when is the best time to DTR? In this video, you’ll discover when and how to have the relationship talk with the person you’re dating. When and How to Define the Relationship Why it’s important to define the relationship Clarify what you both need and want = less confusion and heartbreak Set clear boundaries so there are fewer misunderstandings Make sure you’re both on the same page about the relationship Commitment Exclusivity Emotional investment NOTE: Relationships don’t look the same for everyone, so it’s important to know what works for you and what you need from a person you’re dating. DTR conversations are agreements between two people who are dating. They can be about agreeing on: Exclusivity Casual dating Friends with ...

In this episode, Nischa Phair helps us reconnect to our sexuality after being in an unhealthy relationship. — Nischa Heron Phair is an author, researcher and trauma-informed sex educator who believes in authentic sexuality as the antidote to sexual perfectionism—the silent intimacy killer that makes us perform sex instead of experiencing it in a way that feels truly embodied. She works almost exclusively with female survivors and those recovering from unhealthy relationships to help them reclaim a nourishing, authentic and soulfully-aligned relationship to pleasure that supports them to live purposefully in every area of their lives. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: Why Nischa became passionate about sexuality How unhealthy relationships impact and injure a person’s sexuality What is fawning? How fawning affects people long term How to reclaim sexuality after an unhealthy relationship How the pandemic affected our relationship to pleasure EP 493: N...

If you define estranged as a temporary situation, you’re on the road to recovery Being estranged means that you have to say you’re sorry – over and over and over… If you are in an estranged relationship, the only thing you want is for it to end. You want resolution, reconciliation, forgiveness , unconditional love, compassion – all of these wonderful scenes play themselves out in your mind. But you know that it will not be easy, no matter how great the fantasy make-up scripts are. Maybe you are estranged from an adult son or daughter. Maybe you are the adult child and are estranged from your parent or parents. Maybe the feeling is mutual between all involved. It could be a friend that you have become estranged from, or a relative that you were once close to that isn’t speaking to you anymore. These rifts happen between people who are in a variety of relationships, but the feelings are very similar – one of the involved people feels hurt, abandoned, rejected, and victimized, usually f...

You’ve been told to trust your gut in dating, but is that always the best advice? In this video, I reveal when it’s terrible advice and why . — Trust your gut! The gut always knows the truth! How many times have you received this advice? In this video, I’m going to reveal why ‘trust your gut’ can be terrible advice, and what to do instead… Why ‘Trust Your Gut’ Is Terrible Advice! You’ve probably had a gut feeling about someone you dated. Maybe you broke up with a guy, because your gut told you he wasn’t good for you. But, what if he really WAS a good fit for you, and your so-called ‘gut’ was wrong? Let’s explore what exactly are gut feelings, when should we trust them, and when what we’re feeling is something else. What’s a Gut Feeling? Gut feelings are an inner-knowing. They are the wisest part of us that knows when something is good or bad for us.  It’s called a “gut” feeling, because it usually starts in our gut, in the form of a flu...

In this episode with Chelli Pumphrey, learn how to recover from narcissistic abuse and which red flags to look out for. — Chelli Pumphrey, MA, LPC is a licensed psychotherapist, globally recognized relationship coach, and author. With over twenty-seven years of clinical experience, she is known for her work with trauma, adult attachment, and narcissistic abuse recovery. Chelli is the author of Insight is 20/20: How To Trust Yourself To Protect Yourself From Narcissists, Bullies, & Toxic People . I n this episode of Last First Date Radio: Why Chelli helps people recover from narcissistic abuse How to define narcissistic abuse Some of the red flags that identify whether a partner or potential partner could be a narcissist Why it’s so hard for people to leave an abusive partner What to do if you think you might be in a relationship with a narcissist EP 492: Chelli Pumphrey – How to Recover From Narcissistic Abuse Last First Date Radio Join Sandy Weiner,...

An uncontested divorce in Georgia is the simplest and fastest way to end your marriage. You won’t need to employ an attorney or suffer protracted court fights if you and your husband can find some common ground and cooperate. Instead, you may both concentrate on the next chapter of your life with ease. If an uncontested divorce is an option for you, here’s what you need to know. What Exactly Is an Uncontested Divorce? You and your spouse agree on all points in your divorce in an uncontested divorce including the following: how you intend to divide custody, parenting time, and parental obligations the amount and time frame for any child support the duration and amount of any spousal support (alimony) Division of all property, and the distribution of all debt You don’t have to go to court to litigate once you’ve made these agreements. Instead, you file court forms and a “divorce settlement agreement” that describes the decisions you’ve made about how you want to divide your pro...

In the dating world we are used to seeing ads like this one, “Attractive guy seeking quiet walks on a sandy beach.” With summer rapidly approaching, and the need for a break becoming a necessity, it can be tricky to plan your perfect summer vacation when your budget is already tight. So my ad would read, “Single seeking an affordable summer vacation”. I am convinced that being on a strict budget won’t keep me from enjoying the hot, lay days of summer, I am ready to let the fun begin and you can too! There’s no Place like Home One of the least expensive things you can do is leave the car in the driveway and think of some fun activities to do at home. Most of us lead such busy lives these days that a week at home, with some low-key activities, may be just the ticket to recharge our batteries. Here are a few things you can do in your own backyard. Set up a lounge chair under a shady tree with a tropical drink and a good book .  This is my personal favorite. I love to read but can nev...

If you keep attracting emotionally unsafe men, this video is for you. Learn the signs to look out for before you get hurt again. — Have you ever dated a man who was emotionally unsafe to you? Wouldn’t it be great if there was a checklist to save yourself heartache in the future? Now there is!  In this video, I reveal my ultimate checklist for identifying emotionally unsafe men. Your Ultimate Checklist for Identifying Emotionally Unsafe Men HOW HE TREATS YOU Does he call you regularly? Does he ask about you or just talk about himself? Does he take you out regularly? If you live a distance apart, does he go out of his way to meet you, or does he usually ask you to meet him ? Does he frequently cancel plans at the last minute? Does he ask you out at the last minute (aka booty call)? Is he escalating the relationship? (From dating weekly to a few times a week to exclusivity, discussing future plans?) HOW SECURE AND SAFE YOU FEEL  D...

In this episode, you’ll learn the relationship skills you need to have the lasting connections you yearn for. — Lauren Reitsema’s interest in relationship skills began when her parents divorced after almost 20 years. Seeking to understand better patterns for her own future, she earned a Bachelor in Communication from TCU. Lauren is the author of In Their Shoes , a book dedicated to helping parents better understand and connect with children of divorce. She has been a speaker for over 15 years, teaching a variety of relationship skills to youth, adults and corporate teams. Lauren, her husband, Josh, and their three children are avid skiers, outdoor enthusiasts and Broncos’ fans. Joneen Mackenzie is an RN and former first lieutenant in the USAF Nurse Corps. She founded the Center for Relationship Education, which has certified more than 15,000 educators in its REAL Essentials relationship skills curricula. She participates in national public health standards policy throug...