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If you’ve ever dated an emotionally unavailable man, watch this video. Learn 7 signs of emotional unavailability so you can quickly move on. — How many times have you dated a man, only to learn he was emotionally unavailable for a relationship? Watch this video to learn seven signs that will help you QUICKLY identify whether he is available or not, so you can move on to find a man who’s ready for a relationship. 7 Signs You’re Dating An Emotionally Unavailable Man You feel like a last minute option, not a priority. Complains about or still attached to past relationships. He tells you he’s not available for a relationship right now. You feel great when you’re together, but anxious when you’re apart. Doesn’t show emotion or empathy.  He disengages from you by: Working long hours Drinking too much Spending a long time away from you Avoiding difficult conversations Keeping secrets Doesn’t escalate the relationship.  6 Ways to Attract a...

My podcast guest, Tracy Crossley, talks about imposter syndrome in our romantic relationships. Learn how to reveal your authentic self on dates! Tracy Crossley is a Behavioral Relationship Expert, Author and Podcast Host, who specializes in treating individuals with unhealthy LIFE and relationship patterns. Tracy helps clients transform, impostor syndrome, insecure attachment, negative belief systems, breaking the cycle of narcissistic damage, destructive self-talk, and more. With a background in psychology, an innate emotional intuition, which draws from her own personal experience In this episode of Last First Date Radio: What is impostor syndrome? How we know we’re experiencing it How to overcome or manage it How to remove the mask of perfection on dates Impostor Syndrome in Your Intimate Relationships Last First Date Radio Join Sandy Weiner, THE renowned dating and relationship coach for women over 40, for this inspirational show about attracting and sust...

I have a friend who is always in relationships. She is never single. There’s always a next lover hanging in the sidelines while she’s breaking things off with the soon-to-be-ex-lover. Every relationship in which I’ve seen her over the years has been destructive to her confidence and her quality of life. She dates narcissistic guys with dominant personalities who are concerned mostly with themselves and their own gratification and she spends the course of the relationship bending over backwards to make them happy, knowing in the back of her mind that the same courtesy will not be reciprocated. Even though she knows that this pattern is unhealthy, she always tends to find herself in a rut, trying to pick of the pieces of her broken self-esteem after these guys have worn her out and moved on to the next codependent chick. “Am I not good enough for him?” “What does she have that I don’t have? Is it because she has a better body than me?” “Is it because I’m still in school and haven’t sta...

As an avid observer of people and their habits (especially those pertaining to dating), I have identified two truths about many women. The first truth is that there are many single women out there who want to meet men . The second truth is that many of these single women who claim that the want to meet men hesitate or pass up opportunities to do so. If you live the life of a recluse, sitting in a cubicle or office alone all day, emailing and texting instead of engaging in actual verbal conversations with coworkers and clients, immediately plugging your iPod in the moment you enter the subway to head home from work, then retreating to an empty house where you stay all night, painting your toenails over a bottle of Pinot Grigio while watching Sex & the City On Demand; I have news for you. You’re never going to meet a man.  I have more news for you. It’s you’re own fault.  It’s a tough pill to swallow, I know… But trust me, it’s a lot tougher (and more expensive) to swallow Zoloft f...

It is in our DNA to always want that which seems the least attainable. The fabulous Christian Louboutin pumps you saw in Vogue, the Hermès travel bag you’ve been drooling over, and even your celeb crush who makes you hyperventilate when he appears on your TV screen (for me, this is LL Cool J) are all examples. Why do we want these coveted things? Simple: because they are difficult to get our perfectly manicured fingers on! The same applies in the case of romantic relationships. We’ve all seen examples of the “Playing Hard to Get” game gone wrong on our favorite sitcoms, so we know that it doesn’t work every time. I’m not encouraging you to play games, but I am encouraging you to become less available in order to strengthen your courtier’s desire. Last night, I had a late night chit-chat with my aunt who is now in her 50s and has been married several times. She was gorgeous in her youth; with a voluptuous figure, long, silky black hair that flowed down her back and a beautiful face. Sh...

New Years resolutions don’t usually work. This ritual will help you ring in the New Year in a much more effective way. — Forget New Years resolutions. They don’t usually work . We make big commitments and lose momentum within a short time. I recommend you do this ritual instead. Watch this video to learn how. Create a Year in Review New Years Ritual Make three lists. LIST #1: All the stuff you want to leave behind in 2021 List the people, experiences, regrets, big and small disappointments, bad dates, relationships that didn’t work out, time you wasted doing things that you didn’t want to do, etc. Narrow that list down, and make a not-to-do list and post it where you’ll see throughout next year, to remind yourself what to NOT repeat. LIST #2: The stuff you’re proud of that happened in 2021 What did you learn, what friendships did you make (or let go of), what fears did you overcome, what are you celebrating, how did you show up in a...

We’ve all been there before. Your lover does something that pisses you off, you get angry, you passive aggressively decide to deal with it later, and then you lay awake all night thinking about what a prick he is while he is soundly asleep. What happens in the morning? You wake up pissed off and sleepy because you were up all night giving him evil looks and poking him. He then wonders why you’re in such a bitchy mood and you don’t understand why he’s so clueless. Ahhh, the joys of cohabitation. Many people would rather not discuss issues right away, as tension can be high in the moments immediately following hurt feelings, so they do what is called “sleeping on it” with hopes that their thoughts will be sorted out by the morning. Sometimes this works, but many times what happens when we go to bed angry, is we let tension and anger simmer for hours. Studies actually prove that sleep preserves emotionally charged events. Sitting on our hurt feelings can only worsen the way we feel ...

Author Francine Russo shares great tips on how to find love after 50. You’ll gain new insights and more hope after listening to this episode! — Francine Russo is the author of Love after 50 and They’re Your Parents, Too! Armed with a PhD in English literature, she became a journalist focusing on psychology, relationships and social trends. Having cut her teeth at the Village Voice, she’s gone on to write for virtually every publication from the Atlantic to The New York Times. She covered the Boomer beat at Time magazine for over a decade, and her cover stories have appeared on Parade, Scientific American and New York Magazine.  In this episode of Last First Date Radio: How Francine found love again after being widowed twice How to stay hopeful when you’re searching for love after 50 The biggest challenges to dating at this age What it means to do the ‘headword’ before dating How to get a reality check in dating Different ways people make love work at this stag...

In this video, you’ll learn how to break the anxious-avoidant relationship trap so many find themselves in. — Have you ever found yourself in an anxious-avoidant relationship? If you’ve ever felt anxious and insecure about the love of a partner who said they felt smothered by your needs (or vice versa), you might be caught in this very common relationship pattern. In this video, you’ll learn how to identify and break the anxious-avoidant relationship trap. Breaking the Anxious-Avoidant Relationship Trap What is an Anxious-Avoidant Relationship? There are four attachment styles : anxious, avoidant, disorganized and secure. These styles formed when we were young children, and they often continue into our adult relationships. They’re the blueprints for how we give and receive love. An anxiously attached person tends to give openly and excessively to their partner, often without limits. They usually need a lot of reassurance that they are loved. Th...

What do I want in a man? Well, he must be taller than me… and make six figures… and have straight, white teeth… and have a college degree from a ‘good’ school… and have grown up with both parents present… and want kids… and be physically fit with a perfect medical record… and be of the same faith as me… and have a strong jaw structure and manageable hair… and have had all gorgeous girlfriends in the past, none exceeding my beauty, of course… and be able to read my mind and know when something is wrong, even if I say there’s nothing wrong… and be able to find a cure for AIDS and the secret to world peace. The above list is a slightly exaggerated rendition of a scenario I’ve seen too many times among urban 20-something women. We are increasingly selective with who we will date and why. We can easily rattle off a list of everything their dream man must have and are often completely unwilling to compromise. We notice that he may fall short in terms of one of the items on our four page lis...

In this blog post I will attempt to save you lovely ladies time, energy and money by identifying six key signs that determine whether or not the guy you’re dating is a cheap skate. What he does:  He approaches you in a club, engages you in a brief nonversation, then offers to buy you a drink… even though you have a freshly purchased, full glass in your hand already. What it means: H e had no intention of buying you anything – and probably never will. He probably spotted you earlier in the night and waited for you to purchase your own drink or for someone else to purchase it for you before he decided to pounce. These types of guys, if they get this far, will also take you on a date and insist that you order your wine by the glass… and not by the bottle. What he does:  He only takes you out during happy hour. What it means : He is not willing to pay full price for your enjoyment.  He is perfectly comfortable rushing to a bar after work in order to get a few $3 drinks in before the c...

It’s possible to create a blissful sex life, no matter your past sexual experiences. Listen to my interview with Andrea Balboni about sex! — Andrea Balboni is a Sex, Love and Relationships Coach who wants every woman to know that the secret to having the relationship, sex and intimacy you want lies deep within you. She knows how to uncover that secret, because she’s done it herself. She now guides other women to create incredible relationships full of depth, connection, love and blissful pleasure so that they can live life and love in a whole new way. In Ep 484 of the Last First Date Radio podcast: The number one thing holding people back from the sex life they desire How to have create a blissful sex life, no matter your past How to make peace with past sexual experiences that didn’t serve you What mindful masturbation is, and why it’s important How people can connect more deeply during sex  How to Create a Blissful Sex Life Last First Date Radio Joi...

Attraction Stage one of dating is, of course, the first encounter. You may have locked eyes across a crowded room. They possibly held a door open for you and it led to the exchange of names and numbers. Perhaps you even rode the same transport route for months, and now that friendly smile developed into conversation and attraction. It may even be someone you met through an online dating site . Whatever the case may be, you have the initial butterflies. During this period, there are many dates and tons of messages sent back, and forth. This stage usually lasts a couple of months. It is a time to be flirty. Try to focus on the interactions you have with that someone new, rather than an expectation of them. Reality After about six months or so, your dates are going well. You are seeing each other pretty consistently and still having fun. This stage is where reality starts to set in. As you become closer, the honeymoon phase ends, and now you begin to see little traits in them that an...

If you grew up in a home where your emotional needs weren’t met, you can learn to reparent yourself. Learn how in this video. — If you grew up in a home where your emotional needs weren’t met, or worse, there was any type of abuse or trauma, it often leads to dysfunctional adult relationships. One of the ways to heal is to reparent yourself. In this video, you’ll learn what reparenting is and the four steps I teach to begin the process.  Learn How to Reparent Yourself and Attract in Healthy Love What is reparenting yourself? The type of reparenting I’m speaking about is meeting the needs of your childhood self that you never got from your parents or caretakers as a small child. In most cases, even if your parents are still alive, you will not be able to get what you need from them emotionally. Learning to become your own parent allows you to heal the emotional wound left by your parents. What’s the benefit of reparenting yourself? What I’ve...